Some of us may have a very low level of aspiration and get satisfied with very low levels of need fulfillment. Some others might have higher levels given their potential is supporting their cause. Surely Satisfied with themselves and satisfied with what they have.
Are they already successful ? May be not ? Or are they ? What are they searching for next ? It is not so easy to answer any of these, but what we might infer is , if the same question(s) are asked to these ‘some’ after say, 10 years, you might end up exactly in the same soup and with exactly the same set of questions and answers.
But some of us do not stop there. Only very ‘some’ of us. In motivation sciences, these people are described by the term ‘Self-Actualized’ (self-actualization) and they do not stop at being just being satisfied with some or ALL of their needs fulfilled. They are directed towards searching the meaning and purpose in life or may be to redefine sculpture their own definitions of purpose and life. They feel restless and try to achieve excellence in fields dearer to them. The desire for self-fulfillment, and living a meaningful life is reflected in this ‘need’. The specific form of this need, though, varies from person to person.
They lack overriding guilt, crippling shame and anxiety, spontaneity in behavior, they are problem centered rather than ego centered and have a mission and purpose in life. They like solitude and privacy and at the same time retain their dignity even in undignified surroundings and situations. They like autonomy and freedom to pursue their endeavors in life and work. They derive ecstasy, inspiration and strength from the basic experiences of life. They have mystic experience and have a deep feeling of identification, sympathy and affection for mankind. They maintain interpersonal relations with few people, they are democratic and they can differentiate between ends and means and right and wrong. They have a sense of humor ! And they possess originality and optionally creativeness.
These are the hallmarks of those who are confident, in control of their lives and self-actualized. They ‘know’ and ‘feel’ and control what they are doing and what they will be going to do. Are you like that. May be yes, may be partially. So, We now have a benchmark to cross check and improve upon. Whatever, for me, These ‘some’ work, they try and try and they are ambitious even though in an unusual sense. They are motivated. You might not need role models to look for. You need not wait for a hero to help you out. Derive inspiration and motivation from your own basic experiences of life !
Then comes the dilemma. The ‘fundas’ above are fine, but they just don’t work. I can only say one thing for this. Each one of us must find our own answer !
So, once your are able to reach your self-control stage, Are you successful ?
The very significance of raising this question again is not to confuse but to drive straight one point : After you reach your own self-actualized world of satisfaction, you won’t have any questions !! There is no doubt of success that is to be clarified , there is no force or motivation required. So, for someone who is searching now, he does have questions about his satisfaction and success.
But, if the same question(s) are asked to these ‘some’ after say, 10 years, you would get only one thing in return : Smile !
Reach to a position where success is insignificant. But your search for satisfaction can still continue.
At the end of it all, we are just a picture on the wall !!!
Around 60 years ago, there was a popular publishing with the name Motivation and Personality by Abraham Maslow (some of you might have heard about his Need Hierarchy). The ideas above show resemblance to what’s discussed in that publication.
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