In today’s society, it’s pretty easy to get into the ideology that you need to put yourself before anyone else, or put your work before yourself. By doing so, many people suffer the same fate, relationship problems, marriage problems, and even most importantly, issues with your children because you’re always working and fending for yourself.
While it’s understandable to be a little bit “selfish” (this term is being used very lightly) in the saying that “if you can’t take care of yourself, then you can’t take care of anyone else”, there are amazing benefits when you lead a family first life to enjoy a healthier and happier lifestyle, and many men who are older have realized it, while the younger generations are still wondering what’s going wrong in their lives. Let’s look into this shall we?
Work and Life Balance
One of the biggest problems that people face today in the workplace is that businesses are all about numbers, and don’t offer the quality work and life balance. You go to work, and them come home, and then you’re still talking about work, living like you’re at work, and more. This can cause some serious problems, and in some cases, failed relationships with your family.
Nobody should have to be gone 14 hours a day, and when you are home, still deal with work. Remember the rule that work stays at work, and home life stays at home. On top of this, if you find that your marriage or family life is struggling because of your constant absence, you may want to opt for another job. Doing so may actually repair your life struggles. It doesn’t mean quit working, but it does mean that you’ll have a possible newfound enjoyment for work.
Put Your Spouse First
This sounds really scary as we always hear that we need to put our children first, but the most important marriages that last a lifetime are those who put each other first, and then their children next. Of course, their love for one another is on the same tier, sure; if it weren’t for the two of you, you wouldn’t have the children or your home in the first place. You need to remember this when it comes to life struggles.
Be sure to be courteous to each other’s needs and if you have a hard day at work, don’t take it out on your family. Come home and talk to your wife about something other than work. Also, lose the “I’m helping them” mentality. When you’re in a serious relationship or even a marriage, you are a partnership – a team. If you think like a team, and start thinking that it’s just a part of your life that you need to do things around the house, or for each other, then you’re not helping them, you’re helping the both of you.
Conclusion
By giving yourself a happy work and life balance, you can prioritize more on your own time, and give yourself more appreciation for the little things in life. You’ll see that nothing (even work) is trivial, and that you can do a better job when you tackle everything else along with it.
