Is your child lashing out? Are you feeling embarrassed or hindered by your child’s way of dealing with anger? You are not alone and here is how we can help.
As a parent, there are countless ways to help your child through these emotional moments. Though child counseling seems to be the best professional way to deal with child’s anger, here are some tips to deal with your angry child.
- Recognize and Honor Your Child’s Feelings
If you acknowledge your child’s feelings, then your child doesn’t need to justify those feelings and probably won’t respond in anger. Moreover, validating feelings prompts your child’s anger to go low-key and maintains a safe space in which he can learn empathy and coping skills. However, if you compromise with your child’s feelings and experiences, his anger will escalate, and he will fight to build his own sense of self.
- Teach Your Child The Art Of Solving Problems
If your child is creatively problem-solving, then he ought to possess that unique neurological tracking order. The more your child practices problem-solving rather than emotional reacting, the more his neurological pathways will guide her in controlling impulses. What’s more? You can also teach him how to acknowledge, recognize and happily cope up with her feelings by asking questions that will surely encourage her to think up his own solutions.
#ProTip: Ask your child questions like “what do you think would happen if you choose to go with the option A instead of option B?
- Help Your Child To Make Out And Fix The Cause Or Source Of His Anger
Anger is a natural response to all kinds of daily events that not only produces the feeling of fear, hurt but frustration and irritation too. You need to be careful to not to overreact to your child’s anger. Indeed, anger is a secondary emotion. Find out the source of anger and the real issue. Sometimes a child’s anger communicates a need that he may not be aware of. Your child might be sad, scared confused or insecure and it comes out in the form of anger. The moment your child becomes aware of his or her anger and has had time to cool down, it becomes easy to explore the anger.
Note: When you start the process, the child might be clueless about what generated the anger. But, as you move ahead talking about insecurities, insults, hurts, disappointments and rejections, the door of awareness and recognition will open automatically.
- Practice Empathy
Listen to your child feelings without interrupting or defending and this way you will build a comfortable space for her anger to dissipate since your child will no longer need to consume energy defending her integrity. Moreover, by empathizing you are helping your child regulate the “cortisol”, it’s a fight or flight chemical reaction in a human body that takes place through emotional stress. Your consistency to deal openly with your child’s anger encourages them to react less emotionally and more productively. And, this is how nature and nurture come into balance. The way your child’s behavior affects body chemistry, it gives him an emotional control.
Well, these were some very critical tips to teach your child deal with anger. Remember that; children learn everything from their parents and you being a parent have to make all the difference. Stabilize your relationship with your child and offer him tools that he requires to cope with anger. But, it’s not over yet. If you find your child has relationship problems and a victim of the bully or tries to hurt himself or others then consider seeking a professional help such as child counseling.
